heavy colour light friend...
something i wanna mull about, zhong she qing you... pardon my lousy han yu if i spelt it wrongly... when is it too much? sure... at some point of time or another in all our lives, we'll all be leaving our friends in the cold once someone from the opposite sex catches our eye. question is, when do we cross the line with regards to spending time with that special person and taking our friends, who probably have been through waaaaaay more things than that special lad or lass, for granted?
a recent example has pointed this little issue to me and caused me to muse about it here. our council guys are a solid bunch. well, most of the guys anyway... we call it our little brotherhood. we've been through thick and thin together, and we've seen each other through lotsa things, officially, 4 relationships and numerous crushes and infatuations and the like. 4 officially, 2 contributed by yours truly, 1 by jem, and the only still surviving one with chung (ganbatte bro... =). of course, some things aren't on record... and i can't possibly know the sordid affairs of some of the others who i haven't seen or heard from in a while. ok, there are some on record i don't wish to mention, but then again they weren't part of the true core of the group. i am no less guilty of doing such things before... but i do make it a point to try and make up for any loss time with my brothers who've been through the rigours, backstabbing and political wrangling of our wretched council in due time. i believe it's a fine balance one has to maintain when choosing between their friends and the one they choose to lavish their utmost affections on. having said that and knowing what it is like, attaining that balance is as tricky as negotiating a dense minefield on one leg.
sadly, in the end, one side will suffer. but that's when it pays to have friends and an other half with plenty of understanding. of course, everyone being human, there are limits to things like patience, so we've all got to be extra careful and not tread too hardly on anyone's toes. i guess it's something we've gotta learn as we grow up... the skill of juggling one's time and commitments in a harmonious and unending cycle... as well as the art of being understanding and sensitive to one another...
a recent example has pointed this little issue to me and caused me to muse about it here. our council guys are a solid bunch. well, most of the guys anyway... we call it our little brotherhood. we've been through thick and thin together, and we've seen each other through lotsa things, officially, 4 relationships and numerous crushes and infatuations and the like. 4 officially, 2 contributed by yours truly, 1 by jem, and the only still surviving one with chung (ganbatte bro... =). of course, some things aren't on record... and i can't possibly know the sordid affairs of some of the others who i haven't seen or heard from in a while. ok, there are some on record i don't wish to mention, but then again they weren't part of the true core of the group. i am no less guilty of doing such things before... but i do make it a point to try and make up for any loss time with my brothers who've been through the rigours, backstabbing and political wrangling of our wretched council in due time. i believe it's a fine balance one has to maintain when choosing between their friends and the one they choose to lavish their utmost affections on. having said that and knowing what it is like, attaining that balance is as tricky as negotiating a dense minefield on one leg.
sadly, in the end, one side will suffer. but that's when it pays to have friends and an other half with plenty of understanding. of course, everyone being human, there are limits to things like patience, so we've all got to be extra careful and not tread too hardly on anyone's toes. i guess it's something we've gotta learn as we grow up... the skill of juggling one's time and commitments in a harmonious and unending cycle... as well as the art of being understanding and sensitive to one another...
greg last trudged in on 11/14/2005 05:11:00 am
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